How Do You Define Success?

In a recent conversation with a wealthy businessperson, the conversation turned to stress. He commented that he was trying to figure out how to simplify his life and retire. Defining success is personal, but he commented that he would trade a lot of the monetary rewards in his life for peace. Where does being content fit into the definition of success? Are you content when you are successful or do you think success results in contentment?

I’ve heard many definitions of success, including the one that says it’s the freedom to do what you want, when you want to, with whom you want to, for as long as you want.

This brings to mind the story of the Mexican fisherman.

An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, “only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.”

The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?”

To which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.”

“But what then?” Asked the Mexican.

The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!”

“Millions – then what?”

The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

Deciding exactly what it is that you truly want from your life is key to getting there. My personal definition of success has not changed over the past 40 years. It’s relational. I have built my life and my business on the belief that there’s nothing more important than people. Ralph Waldo Emerson penned the definition I have embraced as my own:

To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

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Beverly Lewis is an Executive Trainer, Speaker and Business Coach. She authored Win from Within: The Heart of Success and Significance

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